a treatise on diogenean love
to live is to see others through the lens of your eyes. to love is to see yourself through the lens of your lover's eyes. love is simultaneously the most selfish and the most selfless act one is capable of.
there is more than one kind of love. perhaps more than one stage of love. you already know what platonic love is. love without sex. sex without love is just masturbating in the most ugly way. you need someone else to fuck you because you suck too much at fucking yourself. how pathetic is that? but love without sex isn't that bad. while most of us are too confused and too foolish to understand our own desires, it's safer to love without sex. well, diogenean love can be called love with sex if the vulgar expression can be allowed.
what is sex? sex is the difference between diogenean love and platonic love. parthenon is the home of diogenes and parthenon means "temple of the virgin goddess". sex involved in diogenean love is more than mere physical intimacy. dio means god and genesis means coming into being of something. diogenean love is what is behind the explanation of everything in existence.
the one true purpose of your existence is to misunderstand yourself, question yourself, challenge yourself, mock yourself, create your own hell and so on. for it's how we evolve. you wouldn't change anything about yourself if you never happened to misunderstand yourself, question yourself, challenge yourself, mock yourself, create your own hell and so on. god made us in their image. challenging god is, in a way, challenging ourselves. from a lazy scientific point of view, challenging god is indeed the very definition of biological evolution.
diogenean love is the act of loving someone so much that you can't help misunderstanding them, questioning them, challenging them, mocking them, creating their own hell and so on, for you see yourself in their image. diogenean love is when you desire to fuck someone more than yourself while you're perfectly capable of fucking yourself for you see yourself in their image more than in your own image.
one interesting thing to note here is, that god indeed is all-loving. there's nothing paradoxical about loving all and being unjust simultaneously. god must see themselves in our image. the more interesting thing to note here is, that if you truly love god, you must question god's love for you and challenge god, not because god's love is paradoxical, but because it's a devout duty. blind faith is sometimes seen as a religious act only because it's cheap and you mock god by offering cheap love.
love makes us what we're. and so does self-hatred. self-hatred is the only revolutionary force that's strong enough to free you from yourself. we can say that love is always platonic until it's mixed with a hatred akin to self-hatred. love mixed with hatred, what we called diogenean love, is the ideal form of love. for love is what makes two hearts beat as one, to hate someone similar to how you hate yourself is the only way to truly make you feel less lonely and less little. it transcends beyond ordinary emotions.
that you don't hurt the ones you love is simply cheap and cowardly. it's possible to love someone in a safe and cowardly way if platonic love is enough for you. but to experience pure ecstatic pleasure, you need diogenean love. you need to be brave. you need to take risks. you need to be reckless. it's often quite difficult to see the difference between diogenean love and abuse. it makes sense that many species give up their lives making love. it makes sense that reproduction is sometimes involved in making love for what is a better way to challenge yourself than creating someone in your own image at the risk of your own death and intense physical torture which is only the beginning of the process. giving birth is more than challenging our mortality. it's challenging ourselves. it's questioning what we're. it's questioning what we can become.